Taking The Time To Throw Candy

I have just finished reading a book called Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist. And I can tell you, this book had me in tears so many times. Shauna may as well have been writing my thoughts and feelings.

The older I get, the more I feel that I have wasted so much of my life on what Shauna calls 'hustling' - making sure everything is perfect, working hard as a way to prove my worth, never taking a rest as if you are not working you are just being lazy. It was all about the output, the end result. If I had nothing to show for my time, I wasn't proving my worth. It was like I had to justify the space I was taking up on this earth.


The quote I am including here really opened my eyes. I read this and thought, 'oh my gosh, that is me and it sounds just terrible.'


The candy throwing referred to here comes from a trip Shauna went on, where it was a tradition that every time kayakers from a nearby camp passed by your dock, you threw candy to them. Just because.


'I used to throw candy, right in the middle of it all. I used to throw candy no matter what. I used to be warm and whimsical. I used to believe in the power of silliness and memory-making and laughter.
And then I became the kind of person who threw candy as long as nothing else was going on - as long as it didn't get in the way of being responsible. I threw candy at approved and sanctioned candy-throwing time, after all the work was done and things were safe and lunches were made.
And then I got so wrapped up in being responsible that it was never the right time to throw candy.
And then, the worst thing: I became the kind of person who made fun of candy-throwers . . . please - who has time? What is this, kindergarten? I've got a list, people, and a flight to catch.
What a loss - for me, for my family, for our community, for all the joy and laughter and silliness we missed out on because I was busy being busy.'


I read this passage (and many others in the book) and was horrified. It WAS me! I've become so bogged down in the details, so mired in the belief that only I can do things right and if I didn't do everything it wouldn't get done, that I was missing everything. I had become the party-pooper, the boring voice of reason and fun-squashing.


There was another passage where Shauna talks about self-care and says that she used to think people who took time for 'self-care' were babies and self-indulgent. I have had those same thoughts. When friends have talked about having a massage or going to a day spa, I have thought that's all right for some but I could never do something like that - what a waste of time and money. When I think about the self-righteous thoughts I have had along these lines, I am totally ashamed.

SO, to cut a long story short, I am going to use 2018 to re-train my mind and soul, to learn to throw candy again. I need to remember that God will accept me as I am, as He created me - I don't need to prove myself to Him other than to follow His commandments and to live by His word.


Throwing candy - that is my prayer for this year.

I Miss You, Yarn Along!

Last week, I wrote and posted my Yarn Along post as usual. It was titled 'Yarn Along - The One With No Knitting. But I did not know that it would also be the 'One With No Yarn Along!'
I had not seen this post by Ginny, bidding farewell to Yarn Along.


I have loved Yarn Along since it began in 2010. In fact, Yarn Along is directly responsible for my decision to start a blog. I enjoyed the posts so much - and knitting and reading are so much a part of my everyday life - that I wanted to join in too. My first Yarn Along post was in February 2012.


I will so miss seeing everyone's projects (so I can add them to my Ravelry wish list) and reading (so I can add them to my library list!).
I am thinking I may just have to continue Yarning Along on a Wednesday anyway.


What about you, fellow Yarn Alongers? Are you feeling similarly bereft? Or am I just being slightly pathetic and needy?!

Too much, do you think?!

Now, I wrote the above post back last year when Yarn Along was leaving us (sob!) and for some reason, I never posted it.


But imagine my joy when I just clicked on over to Small Things and saw a little heading above the Yarn Along button saying 'Returning January 3rd!'
Can this be true?! Will my beloved Yarn Along be back tomorrow?!


I cannot wait to see if this is really happening!
Better start looking through my knitting projects and seeing what is worth posting.
Am I excited? Just a smidge!!

Happy 2018!

Wishing everyone a Happy New Year! (even though it is a day late!)

And here is hoping that I can get my act together and be here on a slightly more regular basis!